When it comes to setting goals it is important to accept that failure is a part of success. Accepting failure as the greatest learning opportunity will change the way we approach it. These are 5 steps that will help overcome failure and build resilience.
When it comes to falling short of a goal the first thing to do is acknowledge it. Failure is an opportunity to learn and it should be treated as such. Falling short of a goal is a part of the process, which does not define who an individuals is or their self worth.
Failure is often perceived as a negative thing that people should fear. However if we choose to accept our short comings, while continuing to work towards our goals it makes the feeling of achievement more valuable. By failing we have the opportunity to build resiliency through hard work and perseverance.
Obstacles are inevitable, but comebacks are optional. It is completely up to you to decide how you approach failure and if you want to overcome it. The best way to overcome failure is to understand the obstacles and challenges that are disrupting a goal. Once they are identified, only then can they be addressed.
“There is no better teacher than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.”– Malcolm X
Revisit the Goal
Sometimes failure isn’t the result of the process, but instead the result of the goal. It is common that we set the wrong goals for ourselves and need to re-evaluate. Remember it is ok to adjust a goal if needed, this could look like changing the timeline, downsizing or even creating a new goal entirely.
Goals should be specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-based. If the goal in question does not meet these requirements it is likely it needs to be modified. By updating or reaffirming a goal you will be more confident moving forward with addressing obstacles.
Next, it’s important to redirect! Take time to review your process and identify areas of improvement. This will require you to change direction and break old habits. If the process isn’t working the best thing to do is start from square one with a new strategy.
Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm. – Winston Churchill
Give Yourself Grace
Always give yourself grace. We are often taught the failure is negative and that it is the end all be all. However, failure is an opportunity to learn and grow. It is important that each individuals defines what success and failure look like in their life and how they want to approach it. By giving yourself grace you are allowing yourself to be human and that’s a good thing.
Goals help us create the lives we want to live by providing a framework of our values. One way to hold yourself accountable and keep your goals at the forefront is to set small goals that are achievable.